The title of this article depicts individuals who have been victimized by other people and suffer from past abandonment and/or rejection.
Deuteronomy 23:2: "A bastard shall not enter into the congregation of the Lord; even to his tenth generation shall he not enter into the congregation of the Lord." (KJV)
Malachi 4:5-6: "Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the LORD. And he shall turn the hearts of the fathers to the children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and smite the earth with a curse." (KJV)
John 14:15-18: "If ye love me, keep my commandments. And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever-- the Spirit of truth; whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him: but you know Him; for He dwells with you, and will be in you. I will not leave you orphans; I will come to you." (NKJV) Please read also Genesis 19:30-38 and Ezekiel 18:19.
Many Christians suffer from being cursed by their parents, relatives, friends, or past generations. They do not understand why they are always mad, depressed, hypercritical or hyper-judgmental. Their relationships never last because they are always finding fault in others. They do not understand the difference between justification and sanctification. Consequently, they make very few allowances for people's faults rather than forgiving and with patience helping those around them to grow. They tend to sever relationships, leaving in bitterness and unforgiveness. They talk about love, but they themselves do not understand the true meaning of agape love, which covers a multitude of sins. These types of people want to point out everyone's weaknesses because, for example, they do not like someone's style of leadership, as in the situation with Aaron and Miriam criticizing Moses until God corrected them. The reality is that "hurting people hurt people". To put it another way, "cursed people curse people".
Some people suffer as a result of words their parents spoke against them while they were growing up. Other Christians suffer because their parents or others abused them sexually, emotionally or physically. If a boy does not bond with his father because his father deserted him or was engaged in homosexuality, that boy may grow up to be a man who is hurt and bitter. In the victims' eyes, nobody will ever be perfect enough because they were never taught the depths of patience, forgiveness and love. They are hurt and they are bitter. They are cursed; consequently, they will always turn on others because nobody on this earth is perfect.
In a course we offer at World Ministries International School of Theology, Rev. Don Crossland points out in his syllabus:
- False Belief: If others make a mistake or disappoint me, then it only proves that I can't trust them; they will only hurt or betray me again.
- Truth: The circumstances of persons, places and things do not make us happy or unhappy. We choose our emotional state by the way we view life and circumstances. Our judgment and condemnation of others is the rejection of ourselves.
"Therefore, you are without excuse, every man of you who passes judgment, for in that you judge another, you condemn yourself; for you who judge practice the same things. And we know that the judgment of God rightly falls upon those who practice such things." Romans 2:1-2 (Course #BICC960: Journey Toward Wholeness, Page 65, under "The Crisis of Relationship")
Dear saint, let us break every curse that our relatives have put on us from our immediate past or from previous generations. Let us understand that we are all saved by grace and that sanctification is a life-long process. Let us forgive and be patient toward one another. Cherish your relationships with your family, friends, church and ministry and do not separate because of disappointments; instead, forgive!
Ask the Lord to break off any evil offense or sin of any kind. Ask Him to forgive you and your previous generations of any sin in which you might have been involved. Make sure you forgive all others and stop judging them with your man-made conditions. Just leave them to God. Remember, you also are a hypocrite saved by grace. You also have gossiped about others. So, forgive them and yourself and let the curse be broken in Jesus' name and start to renew relationships and be blessed. Always remember that loving people forgive people, where hurt people attack and leave people! Be a peacemaker and a true friend. When you condemn others, you condemn yourself!
Jesus and I love you,
Dr. Jonathan Hansen
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